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Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Maybe I’m Too Old to Get Married

Time seems to be a constant enemy for us in life. When we’re young, we can’t wait to get older. And as we age, we regret the time we’ve wasted on things which don’t mean anything to us anymore. Yes, the Word says we should be content in all things. But can someone be honest every once and awhile and admit that being content with our age is tough, especially when your past is filled with regrets.

I’ve been spending a lot of time with single women around the country, and for my single sisters who are over 40 years old; I’ve heard the same message concerning marriage. After being single for those many years, or being married and now single again, is marriage really a necessity? “Maybe”, some say, “it would be best to accept being single, and enjoy life instead of hoping and waiting for marriage”.

I can’t help but consider Ruth’s story in the Bible. Ruth was in her late thirties when her husband for 10 years died suddenly. She’d had no children, and now no husband to take care of her. In her grief, she decided to ignore her mother-in-law’s advice to stay in her home town to remarry. She chose to live a life which almost insured she would remain single for the rest of her life. She chose to leave the life she knew, and take care of her mother-in-law Naomi. She chose to follow after the Lord, and to do whatever He chose for her to do.

Essentially Ruth, offered herself up to the Lord to follow Him as a single woman. And the Lord said, “No thank you.” You see, Ruth’s destiny was to take part in the line of Jesus Christ. Her destiny was to marry again, to an older man who, in my opinion, had given up on marriage and children as well.

The Bible says that Boaz was amazed when Ruth asked to be his bride. He obviously had feelings for her, but at 80 years old, he figured she would want a younger man. God knew better, and gave both Boaz and Ruth a second chance at happiness by bringing them together. At 40 years old, Ruth remarried, had a son, and fulfilled her destiny.

The truth of the matter is we can’t dictate to God what He wants from us. He asks that we submit to His will, whatever it may be. Marriage is a calling of sorts, and the ones involved fulfill a purpose that gives God glory. I don’t believe we need to hear a Word from God to get married. But I do believe that some purposes in this world can only come to pass when two people work to accomplish that purpose together.

Marriage between people of God gives the Father the access to do exponential greatness in the earth. Who are we to say that age will hinder that God-designed purpose?

Age, my friend, has nothing to do with it.

It you are such a woman who feels her time for marriage has ended, remember this. God is looking for servants who want to be used by Him. If you have the chance to marry, to fulfill God’s purpose in the earth, will your answer be no? My prayer is that if God leads you to a man to marry, your answer will be “Here I am Lord. Use me.”

Christine Pembleton is a speaker, radio show host, and author of Lord, I'm Ready to Be a Wife. Order your copy of the book today by visiting

1 comment:

  1. Marriage is truly something that has to happen in God's time and I wouldn't want it any other way. Imagine the relationships we may end up in if we rushed into the first opportunity at marriage that happened to come knocking!